Tuesday, July 26, 2011

Happiness Model .. :-)

The Happiness Model was developed by Harvard professor, Dr. Tal Ben-Shahar, and published in his book, "Happier."
The Happiness Model defines four happiness archetypes. These are:
1. Nihilism – Nihilists are people who have given up hope of finding meaning in life. Nihilists don't enjoy any present happiness, nor do they have any sense of purpose or hope for the future. As a result, they're "resigned to their fate."
2. Hedonism - Hedonists live for the moment. They pursue pleasure and an easy life, and give little or no thought to future consequences and plans. They may think that "working hard" is painful and tedious, and may avoid this.
3. Rat Racing - The Rat Race archetype often sacrifices current pleasures and benefits in anticipation of some future reward. This archetype is likely the most familiar to many of us. Here, people constantly pursue goals that they think will make them happy. When those goals are achieved, however, a new goal (and the accompanying stress and anxiety) almost immediately takes its place. While Rat Racers may experience brief flashes of satisfaction when they achieve goals, any thought of present happiness is then quickly pushed to the side.
4. Happiness - True happiness is achieved when there is a perfect balance between present pleasure and future benefits.
According to Ben-Shahar, we achieve happiness when we're able to enjoy both the journey and the destination that we're moving towards. We've learned how to set goals that are meaningful, but we don't focus exclusively on achieving them at the expense of everything else. We focus on today's pleasures, as well as on our dreams and goals.
We can use the Happiness Model to shed light on the life we're living now, and the life that we wish we were living. The power to change always lies within us J

Using the ModelDr. Ben-Shahar says that it's impossible for us to feel constantly happy, all of the time. Sometimes, we do have to put off present happiness for important future gains; for instance, when we have to stay late at work to finish an important project.It's also sometimes important to focus on present pleasures, as a hedonist does. For instance, lying on the beach or watching TV can not only rest and rejuvenate us, but these pleasurable activities can also bring happiness into our life.The point, however, is to spend as much time as possible engaged in activities that give us both present and future benefits.What's most useful about the Happiness Model is that it can be used as a window into our life. For instance, look at the four quadrants. Where do you spend the majority of your time? Are you living a Rat Race life, pursuing future goals at the expense of your present happiness? Or are you living more as a Hedonist, avoiding challenging goals in order to pursue daily pleasures, with no thought to future growth or development?Or, do you feel that you've achieved happiness? Are you taking pleasure in today, as well as focusing your efforts on pursuing longer-term goals?We can use the Happiness Model to assess where we are in our current life. If we're not in the right quadrant of the model, we can start today making changes that will create more balance in our life.

Not worrying too much about the problem is the first step to solve it

A chemistry professor decided to teach his students a different lesson one day.
Holding a glass of water in his hand, he asked the students, “How much do you think this glass of water weighs?”
“500 grams!” came a voice from the back. “600,” said another student.
“I don’t really know!” said the professor, holding the glass up to make sure everyone could see it. “And unless we weigh it, we won’t know.” With the glass still in his outstretched hand, the professor continued, “What will happen if I hold it like this for a few minutes?”
“Nothing!” came the reply.
“Right, and if I hold it for an hour like this, what might happen?”
“Your hand will begin to hurt,” said a student.
“Indeed. And what would happen if I held the glass in my hand like this for 24 hours?”
“You would be in tremendous pain,” said one student. “Your hand will probably go numb,” said another. “Your arm will be paralyzed and we’ll need to rush you to the hospital!” said a student on the last bench.
“True,” said the professor. “But notice that through all this, the weight of the glass did not change. What then causes the pain?”
The class went quiet. The students seemed puzzled.“What should I do to avoid the pain?” asked the professor.
“Put the glass down!” said a student.
“Well said!” exclaimed the professor. And that’s a lesson I want you to remember.
“The problems and worries in life are like that glass of water. Think about them for a while and nothing happens. But think about it a bit longer and they begin to hurt. And if you think about them all day long, you will feel paralyzed – incapable of doing anything. It’s important to remember to let go of your problems. Remember to put the glass down!”
We may not have been in that classroom that day, but it’s a lesson we would all do well to remember. Put the glass down! Always. It’s not just problems and worries. Sometimes, we feel hurt and betrayed by a friend. And we carry that grudge through our lives. It grows and causes us anguish and pain. Learning to forgive – and forget – is not just good for the other people, it’s great for you. Nelson Mandela spent 27 years in jail and when he was finally freed, you can understand how angry and vengeful he must have felt. But guess what? When he became President, he invited his jailers to be present at the inauguration – in the VIP seats! If he could forgive after 27 years of suffering, surely we can too.
It is the same with our fears too. A failure or an incident in early childhood becomes a deeply entrenched fear over time. Fear of public speaking, fear of Math, fear of rejection. You name it, and chances are, we have it. Someone gave us that glass to hold when we were little kids – ‘you are clumsy, you are no good, you can’t do it’ - and we have faithfully held on to it all our lives. ‘I can’t’ - becomes a thought that stays in our mind and grows – leading us to complete paralysis. Time to put the glass down!
The story goes that there was a hardworking man who lived a contented life with his wife and children. Every evening when he returned from work, he’d follow a ritual. Outside the door to his house were three nails. On the first one, he’d put his hat. On the second he’d hang his coat. And on the third nail, he’d unwrap an imaginary turban from his head and ‘put’ it there. A friend happened to see this and enquired what he was putting on the third nail every day.
“Those are my problems, my worries and my anger,” said the man. “I have lots of that at work, but when I come home, I remember to take it off – and leave them outside. I don’t take them home with me.” Maybe you should learn to do that too. Starting today. Put the glass down. And see the difference!
Article by: Prakash Iyer (MD, Kimberly-Clark Lever and Executive Coach)

In India - Common lines after getting drunk

1 . Tu to Mera bhai hai . . . bhai !!!

2 . You know i am not drunk . . .

3 . Gaadi mein Chalaunga . . .

5 . Tu bura mat maann bhai . . .

6 . Mai teri Dil Se Izzat Karta hu . . .

7 . Abe bol daal aaj usko, aar yaa paar . . . .

8 . Aaj saali Chad nahi rahi hai kya baat hai??

9 . Tu Kya samajh raha hai mujhe chad gayi hai . . .

10 . Ye mat samajh ki peeke bol raha hu . . .

11 . Abe yaar kahin kam to nahi padegi itnee . . .

12 . Chhote, Ek Ek Chhota aur ho Jae . . . lovely waala !!!

13 . Baap ko mat Sikhao . . .

14 . Yaar magar tune mera dil tod diya . . .

15 . Kuchh bhi hai par saala Bhai hai Apna . . .

16 . Tu Bolna Bhai, kya chahiye . . . Jaan chahiye hazir hai ???

17 . Abe mere ko aaj tak nahi Chadee . . . shart laga saala aaj tu . .

18 . Chal teri baat karata hoon usse, phone number de uska . . .

19 . Saale teri bhabhie hai wo . . . bhabie ki nazar se dekh usko . . .

20 . Yaar tu samjha kar . . wo tere layak nahi hai . . .

21 . chal bhai tu kah raha hai to tere liye chodh diya usko . . aaj se wo teri . . . bana issi baat par ek - ek aur peg !!!

22 . Tujhe kya lagta hai chadh gayi hai . . . abhi ek full aur khatam kar sakta hun . . .

and the best one . . .

23 . Yaar aaj uski bahut yaad aa rahi hai

And Finally . . .

Salla . . . aaj se daru band . . . . . . . . . . . . . . . !!!

Excel Tricks for You to Discover Some Excel 2003 Functionality

1.) Hiding Duplicate Records As Easy As 1-2-3!
One of the most common mistakes users make in preparing a report or sorting data is including duplicate entries. A built-in filter in Excel will take care of this problem. Follow these steps:
· From the Data menu, point to Filter and click Advanced Filter.
· Drag across the worksheet to select/highlight the lists containing duplicate entries.
· Check Unique records only option.
· Click OK.
Excel will now hide any duplicate records in the selected range.
2.) Saving time with Custom Views
Custom Views is a tool in Excel that lets you assign a name to a particular sheet layout so you can recall it for later viewing. Making good use of custom views can save a great deal of time. For example, you can eliminate repetitive hiding, resizing, filtering, and other changes for producing various printed reports. Each set of options can be saved as a view. Then, all you need to do is apply the view before you print.
To access the feature:
· From the View menu, click Custom Views.
· From the Custom Views dialog box displayed, you'll see a listing of saved views, and you can add or delete views.
When adding a view, you have the option of including print settings, hidden rows and columns, and filter settings. The new view even remembers where the active cell was when the view was saved, so when you open that view, it will "jump" to the spot in your sheet that corresponds to that view.
3.) How About Those Functions that Exceed the 30-argument limit?
Excel has a 30-argument limit for statistical functions. It's easy to get around, though, if you group some of your arguments within parentheses.
Instead of entering AVG(A1,A2,A3…,A33), you can enter AVG((A1,A2,A3)A4…,A33), and Excel will accept the grouped arguments as a single argument within the formula.
4.) Why Conditional Formatting?
Conditional formatting refers to the ability to format a cell based on the contents of the cells. Conditional formatting makes it easy to highlight certain values so that they stand out visually. For example, you may set up conditional formatting so that if a formula returns a negative value, the cell background displays yellow, etc.
The best part is that conditional formatting is easy to set up. Just click the cells you'd like to format and select Format Conditional Formatting. The Conditional Formatting dialog box lets you set up the conditions by which the formatting of the cell will occur. You pick the operator (between, equal to, less than, etc.) and the value or range of values. Click Format to open the Format Cells dialog box, where you can select the colors and styles to be used.
Each cell can have several conditional formats. For example, you might say that if a certain cell's value is between 10 and 30, the text should be bolded red on a yellow background.
5.) Catching Data Entry Errors
A workbook can be shared so that different peoples can access the same file at the same time. But it's a fact that shared workbooks generate more errors than workbooks with only one owner. Here's one way to flag errors as they occur:
· Select all cells in which data will be entered.
· From the Format menu, click Conditional Formatting.
· From the Conditional Formatting dialog box displayed, specify which cell values to flag.
· Click the Format button.
· From the Format Cells dialog box displayed, click the Patterns tab and select a color to signal errors.
· Click OK.
Now, when someone enters an error, it will be flagged with your selected color.
6.) How to Customize "division by 0" Error Messages?
Working in a complex worksheet, you may have encountered that annoying "#DIV/0!" error when the divisor of your formula is a zero. Using the IF function, you can create your own message for display when you divide by zero.
The IF function will be like this:
=IF (DIVISOR = 0,"Your Desired Text", DIVIDED/DIVISOR)
The IF function evaluates the first parameter (DIVISOR = 0). If it's TRUE, it displays the second parameter ("Your Desired Text") in the cell. If it's FALSE, the function displays the third parameter (DIVIDED/DIVISOR) in the cell.
7.) How to Ensure Proper Data Entry with Validation?
Data validation rules in Excel automatically check an entry made by a user against rules you have preset in the worksheet. This is helpful when you have formulas that depend on certain expected input from the user. These formulas can often return errors if the format of the entered data is wrong.
To set data validation rules, follow these steps:
· From the Data menu, click Validation.
· From the Data Validation dialog box displayed, click the Input Message tab.
· In the Input Message tab, insert the messages to display in the Title: and Input Message: boxes.
· Click OK.
This message will appear in a pop-up, note-style display. It can be used to provide users with information about what data you expect them to enter. You can also provide a message from the Error Alert tab if the data entered does not meet your rules.
8.) Link from Web Page to a Specific Worksheet Cell
Did you know that you can control which worksheet is displayed when you open a particular workbook in your Web browser. For example: http://www.msoffice-tutorial-training.com/test.xls#Sheet3!C2 will open your file called test.xls and then select cell C2 on Sheet3.
Using this kind of linking, you can specify exactly where you will enter the workbook. This can be helpful if you insert the link to a Web page that asks the user to enter data in a particular cell or area of a sheet. You can select the cell for them when they click the link.
9.) How to Express Yourself with Comments?
If you received a workbook and the formatting was a mess, and there were formulas everywhere. How do you feel if all those formatting and formulas are not properly explained?
It's time to get your users into the habit of documenting workbooks with comments. A cell with a comment is marked with a small red triangle in the upper-right corner. You can easily add a comment to a cell by clicking Insert menu, choose Comment.
Then enter the text descriptions into the cell. These descriptions are visible only if you hover the mouse over the cell.
Excel's Reviewing Toolbar facilitates working with the comments in a workbook. The options on this toolbar allow users to add and delete comments and move from one comment to another in a workbook.
10.) Few Clicks Clear Out All Excel Comments!
As handy as comments can be in annotating the information in a worksheet, you may sometimes want to delete them once they've served their purpose. The fastest way to handle this is:
· From the Edit menu, click Go To.
· Click the Special button and then select the Comments option.
· Click OK button.
· Go to the Edit menu again and point to Clear and to select Comments. Excel will delete all the comments and their text from the current worksheet.
11.) Several Users Work on the Same Workbook Together!
If you have several users who need to work from the same workbook at the same time, familiarize yourself with Excel's Shared Workbook feature. This feature can be a lifesaver when workbooks must be updated by multiple users.
You can set options that control when changes are updated and how to handle conflicting edits by different users. You can also choose to save updates when a user clicks Save, or you can specify a time interval for Excel to automatically save user updates.
To use this feature:
· From the Tools menu, click Share Workbook.
· From the Share Workbook dialog box displayed, in the Editing tab, check Allow changes by more than one user at the same time option.
· Click the Advanced tab and do the necessary settings.
You can decide how changes should be logged by the Track Changes feature, which integrates with workbook sharing. That way, you can see exactly what changes were made to cells, when sheets were added or deleted, how conflicting edits were resolved, etc. Users can also see the names of all the other users who have the workbook open for editing.
12.) Copying Styles from One Workbook to Another?
Formatting workbooks to your desired styles can really take time. So why should you waste time re-creating these styles in multiple workbooks? Just copy the style from one workbook to another:
· Open the source workbook and the destination workbook.
· Make sure that the destination workbook is active, go to the Format menu, and choose Style.
· From the Styles dialog box displayed, click the Merge button.
· From the Merge Styles dialog box displayed, select the source workbook from the Merge styles from: list box.
· Click OK twice.

Tricky Fun!!!!!!!!!!!!

If you are able to give Right answers:

< 2 = “Poor”
2-3 = “Ok”
4-5 = “Average“
6-7 = “Smart”
8-9 = “Genius”
10 = “Rajnikanth”

1) An airplane crashed into a field. Every single person in the aircraft died. But two people survived. How come?

2) A man and a son were driving home one rainy night. They had an accident. The father died on the spot. The people who were nearby took the son to the emergency room. The surgeon refused to operate on the boy, saying "I cannot operate on him, he's my son!" How is that possible?

3) What can you hold without ever touching or using your hands?

4) Can you guess the next three letters in the following series and why?C Y G T N T L I T F.........

5) First I threw away the outside and cooked the inside, then I ate the outside and threw away the inside, what did I eat?

6) The number 8,549,176,320 is a unique number. Can you tell what is so special about it?

7) A boy was at a carnival and went to a booth where a man said to the boy, "If I write your exact weight on this piece of paper then you have to give me $50, but if I cannot, I will pay you $50." The boy looked around and saw no scale so he agrees, thinking no matter what the carny writes he'll just say he weighs more or less. But still in the end the boy ended up paying the man $50. How did the man win the bet?

8) After teaching his class all about roman numerals (X = 10, IX=9 and so on) the teacher asked his class to draw a single continuous line and turn IX into 6. The only stipulation the teacher made was that the pen could not be lifted from the paper until the line was complete.

9) What row of numbers comes next in this series?11121121111122131221113112221

10) While exploring the wild highlands of Ireland, Robert was captured by goblins. Grumpy, the chief of the goblins told him he was allowed one final statement on which would hinge how he would die. If the statement he made was false, he would be boiled in water. If the statement were true, he would be fried in oil. Sine Robert did not like either option, so he made a statement that forced the goblins to release him. What is the one statement he could make to save himself?

Answers Below


1) Because they were married!!!

2) Because, the surgeon was her MOTHER!!

3) Your Breath

4) S, A and W, the first letter of every word in the sentence.

5) A Corn

6) This is the Only number which includes all digits arranged in alphabetically.

7) The man did exactly as he said he would and wrote 'your exact weight' on the paper.

8) Draw an S in front of the IX and it spells SIX. No one said the line had to be straight.

9) 1113213211 After the first line, each line describes the previous line:One OneTwo OnesOne Two, One One(and so on...)

10) Robert said: "You will boil me in water." The goblins were faced with a dilemma. If they boil him in water, that would make his statement true, which means he should have been fried in oil. They can only fry him in oil if he makes a true statement, but if they do, it would make his final statement false. The fairies had no way our of their situation so they were forced to set Robert free.

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